Comments on: Deadbeat parents http://austrolabe.com/2006/09/22/deadbeat-parents/ Sat, 07 Jan 2012 13:12:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Baybers http://austrolabe.com/2006/09/22/deadbeat-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-949 Baybers Thu, 28 Sep 2006 11:35:35 +0000 http://austrolabe.com/2006/09/22/deadbeat-parents/#comment-949 my last post is filled with so many grammatical errors, that I pity Amal when she reads it. (it will like nails going down a blackboard) I have counted 7,...ouch! my last post is filled with so many grammatical errors, that I pity Amal when she reads it. (it will like nails going down a blackboard)

I have counted 7,…ouch!

]]> By: Baybers http://austrolabe.com/2006/09/22/deadbeat-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-948 Baybers Thu, 28 Sep 2006 11:32:18 +0000 http://austrolabe.com/2006/09/22/deadbeat-parents/#comment-948 Many children (especially in the west) are conceived for the sole purpose of the amusement, psychological support and entertainment of parents who increasingly slot them into one small facet of their increasingly materialistic (and meaningless) lives. By the time they reach school age the parents are bored with them, and the care of them which is contracted out to an increasingly totalitarian public education system, which now seeks to teach them "values" in addition to providing a dysfunctional childminding service. Many children (especially in the west) are conceived for the sole purpose of the amusement, psychological support and entertainment of parents who increasingly slot them into one small facet of their increasingly materialistic (and meaningless) lives.

By the time they reach school age the parents are bored with them, and the care of them which is contracted out to an increasingly totalitarian public education system, which now seeks to teach them “values” in addition to providing a dysfunctional childminding service.

]]> By: Baraka http://austrolabe.com/2006/09/22/deadbeat-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-945 Baraka Wed, 27 Sep 2006 15:04:38 +0000 http://austrolabe.com/2006/09/22/deadbeat-parents/#comment-945 Jazak Allahu khier for an excellent article akhi, it raises alot of good points masha-Allah, I would like to extend on your points if I may. Parallel to the transition of the show itself (I used to watch Top Gear during the 90s), over the years, the approach of the presenters went from family men to teenage boys, selling adrenaline and the promise of a glamourous lifestyle to their viewers. Having said that, it's sad to think that men like Richard Hammond are putting their lives on the line for entertainment's sake. Everytime they get into those cars, they do so knowing they have put their job before their loved ones. Ideally, once someone becomes a parent, they have made a commitment to their children. They have made a decison to put them first, in not only their child's well-being but ensuring as best as they can, of their own. If an individual sees opportunity in every risk, the parent should see risk in every opportunity. But this is not so much about whether a parent takes risks or not, the world around us presents risks and challenges everyday. The question is whether they were taken for the right reasons and not to increase show ratings or to fulfil their pleasure pursuits. What use is it if you succeeded as a race driver but failed as a parent? Hailed as a hero but failed as a father? Can you live with that? Or die for that? A small victory for a big price. At the end of the day, as Baybers rightly said, your children have rights over you and so does your own body. We will all be accountable for how we treated them. Jazak Allahu khier for an excellent article akhi, it raises alot of good points masha-Allah, I would like to extend on your points if I may.

Parallel to the transition of the show itself (I used to watch Top Gear during the 90s), over the years, the approach of the presenters went from family men to teenage boys, selling adrenaline and the promise of a glamourous lifestyle to their viewers. Having said that, it’s sad to think that men like Richard Hammond are putting their lives on the line for entertainment’s sake. Everytime they get into those cars, they do so knowing they have put their job before their loved ones.

Ideally, once someone becomes a parent, they have made a commitment to their children. They have made a decison to put them first, in not only their child’s well-being but ensuring as best as they can, of their own. If an individual sees opportunity in every risk, the parent should see risk in every opportunity.

But this is not so much about whether a parent takes risks or not, the world around us presents risks and challenges everyday. The question is whether they were taken for the right reasons and not to increase show ratings or to fulfil their pleasure pursuits. What use is it if you succeeded as a race driver but failed as a parent? Hailed as a hero but failed as a father? Can you live with that? Or die for that? A small victory for a big price. At the end of the day, as Baybers rightly said, your children have rights over you and so does your own body. We will all be accountable for how we treated them.

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