Where is our third option? We can choose to marry non AA men. Not all of us are loyal to our race.

I am really surprised that for many AA women, loyal to race is so paramount. I’d be just as disappointed in a brother/sister if they said that they’d only marry Arab or White or Pakistani or African. A lot of AA Muslimas feel that they need to have a black husband. I’d say marry someone on your level spiritually and intellectually instead of marrying down for reasons of race. Such idealism seems close to nationalism (not fond of this either). It’s the prophetic thing to do, is it not?

what of those who do exercise a preferential option for non-white spouses? Well, I think there are two main reasons, conscious or unconscious

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Which leads me to Umm Yasmin. I don’t really think there are implications when whites opt out and marry non whites. I don’t think it’s really that deep for them. In most cases it is purely a matter of attraction (and that’s saying it mildly).

One of the reasons AA issues do not get covered that much is that AA Muslims, and other American-Muslims, are too busy carrying water for immigrant Muslims and their causes.

What do you mean?

So, I’d say that the aboriginals are blending at a faster rate than AA’s here in the US, who still largely live segregated.

Here in the US, the achievers are the ones ‘opting out’

Shadower:

Yes, many (if not most) problems that exist in the AA community are tied directly back to a culture of underachievement. (And many converts bring this culture INTO Islam with them and it is often given the clothing of piety)

The desire to not have their children affected by this culture of underachievement also makes the achievers want to seperate themselves and blend into “non-blackness”. Many may not explicitly say that they are doing this, but it is what is happening nonetheless.

But wouldn’t the problem then be within the ‘AA’ community if getting good grades is stereotyped as “acting white”? Which seems to be the root cause of this problem.