Comments on: I love myself unconditionally

By: dreamer

dreamer — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:41:34 +0000

honestly i have read every article i could find or book or seen avery video that was suppoed to help me with my selfsteem. what a waist of time i mean peoples experiences on how they have make their lifes great just depressed me more. knowing that others could do what i cant is not helping. i think that ones you have stablish in your life that yes u need help you just have to go step by step on your own ways becouse what have help others does not mean that its going to help u at no cost. every single one of us go through things that are individual sutuations emotions and performences. some of us have lost are feith if we ever had any. our love ones the things that seem important ones dosent guarante you to make u hape some time for now.

stop reading and start doing things towars your personal goals for as small as they are the hel u ..

lets face it that all we really want to work things within our selfs

By: Mohammed

Mohammed — Sun, 01 Apr 2007 04:50:29 +0000

Thanks for your comments, Sam.

I’m not saying that the premise of the book is not useful. In fact, I found the first chapter intriguing, but I struggled to get through the rest. It was the page-filling fluff and the self-patronising affirmations I took issue with, which underscores some of the problems with the self-help movement.

In any case, I’m glad it works for you. Different strokes for different folks.

By: Sam Donners

Sam Donners — Wed, 28 Mar 2007 17:11:11 +0000

Mohammed:

Thanks for raising this important issue. I think it’s great that you are exploring different life philosophies. With all due respect, I have a different viewpoint about “Optimal Thinking”. I read Rosalene Glickman’s book and have gone through the 100 day optimal thinking audio program. I found optimal thinking to be the missing link in all the studies I have undergone spiritually and practically. It gave me a down-to-earth formula to consistently be my personal best and lead others to be their best.

Thoughts are the parents of our experiences and learning how to optimize those thoughts empower us to be our very best. It is a new paradigm that goes beyond positive thinking, teaching us about our thinking habits and how to respect negative and positive thoughts and actions, and make the most of them. It is not a rose-colored glasses approach. Optimal thinking is realistic and we can all use it to make the most of our lives. Even though it appears simple, it dives into the core of our cognitive, emotional, and spiritual experience and shows us how to maximize it.

By: UmmFarouq

UmmFarouq — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 16:14:52 +0000

I can happily boast I stayed away from the D.C. craze. I was wary of his snake oil ways that hooked so many.

Thanks for the point about the true sages offering their advice/help for free. No royalties from multinational corps ever came their way. Alhamdulillah.

By: Baybers

Baybers — Mon, 26 Mar 2007 05:40:06 +0000

There are two aspects to this,

the first is that sages of the past would dispense their advice free of charge. Prophets of God ( pBUH) were required to do so as an article of faith

the second is the quality of advice.

On both counts most self help gurus fail the test of community benefit, although they do live up to their titles because they do help themselves to immense wealth.

When I am forced into social conversation, I try as early as possible to apply the “Deepak Chopra test”. i.e. do you read/ benefit from /recommend DC? If the answer is yes to any 2 out of three of the questions, then it means that one can safely halt the conversation and move on to discussing anything with any other form of senescence in the room, such as a bumble bee..

By: Anonymous Muslim

Anonymous Muslim — Sun, 25 Mar 2007 06:07:35 +0000

The important distinction is between the guru who tells you how to live your life and the guy who just tells you a few tricks and techniques for organising your time or finding a new job. Or, to use some names, it’s the difference between Tony “Walk on Fire” Robbins, Deepak Chopra, and people like Dave “Getting things done” Allen. The second group are useful and I recommend them, but the first group are dangerous and will destroy your life. Many, many people gave thousands to people like Robbins or the Landmark Forum and ended up with nothing except a red face in front of their bemused colleagues.

By: sindbad

sindbad — Sun, 25 Mar 2007 04:23:08 +0000

Honestly, I am prejudiced against all of this how-to-sort-out-your-life books. In other words, I don’t believe in gurus, whatever that means as they are pompous and self-righteous. I agree with Fatima:

“I think what I find interesting in alot of these self-help books is that alot of Islamic principles are in there. You don’t really need to go there if you knew where to look in Islamic literature.”

In fact, I’ll contend that these self-help books have extracted quotes and wisdom from religious texts and philosophy, which is all good, but I don’t agree with the writer who most likely doesn’t have a very smashing life. On the other hand, there is must wisdom to to found in the books of those who battled through issues and even fatal illnesses. There is sincerity to be found in their accounts.

By: Pam

Pam — Fri, 23 Mar 2007 19:49:33 +0000

I agree with you that you can find merit in many of these things. You have to take what works for you and implement it, and don’t worry about the rest. I was on a teleseminar last night with Ben Mack, Shila Fisher, Joost Van Der Leij and Todd Gaster talking about NLP and Marketing. They are doing a seminar in the Netherlands about “How to balance your life to the fullest by using the secret powers of the four elements: Earth, Water, Air and Fire”. Just another approach in the world of NLP and living your life to the fullest. www.thecoolestadintheworld.com is a one hour video of Ben and Joost teaching some of these ideas. It’s another approach to what you were talking about.

By: terel

terel — Thu, 22 Mar 2007 22:00:43 +0000

For pure cultishness, you can't go past the Landmark Forum.

By: Sara Tancredi

Sara Tancredi — Thu, 22 Mar 2007 21:42:34 +0000

Organisational advice is probably very helpful. I think it’s Anthony Robbins’ husky voice leading millions, lemming-like, to part with their cash that we should be cynical about.

Dr Phil for President!