Roger Sandall on the sexualisation of everyday life

Roger Sandall had an interesting piece in the January-Februrary issue of Quadrant (“… a lonely counterpoint to stultifying orthodoxies and dangerous utopias, the best of the Western cultural tradition,” according to our Prime Minister John Howard). Sandall addresses the issue of the increasing sexualisation of our culture, using the controversial comments of Sheikh Taj al-Din al-Hilali regarding women, raw meat, etc. to launch his piece.

He writes, in part:

Where are the sheiks of yesteryear, riding romantically over the dunes? Not in Australia. Here a burly Egyptian with an ugly turn of phrase recently set new records for ungallantry. Scantily clad Australian women, complained Sheik Taj el-Din al Hilaly, go around like “exposed meat” inviting rape.

Of course we all made a huge uproar. Unbelievable! Who asked his opinion anyway? The sheik calls himself a Mufti and thinks he represents Islam Down Under. But the man’s a brute who plainly hates western culture, who may have channelled funds to Hezbollah, and on top this he’s a security risk too. Go home sheik, go home!

This said, maybe he had a point all the same. It does seem nowadays that you can’t go to the newsagent to buy a paper, or the supermarket to buy a loaf of bread, without being surrounded by acres of glossy magazine erotica and exciting flesh. Not all of us would call it exposed meat, perhaps, but whatever it’s called it’s there—much of it little short of pornography.

(thanks to Dennis for the link)

9 comments ↓

#1 fsf on 04.24.07 at 9:29 pm

You forgot the publish the letter from Peter Costello demanding the expulsion of Sandall from Australia for agreeing with Hilaly.

Oh wait. It didn’t happen.

#2 Amal on 04.24.07 at 10:33 pm

I’m a bit unsure about a few of the points Sandall made, but overall it’s a compelling article. In particular, I found his discussion of Nabokov (Lolita) rather persuasive. It’s certainly a contentious issue.

“It is with our passions, as it is with fire and water, they are good servants but bad masters.”
- Aesop

#3 Baybers on 04.25.07 at 6:16 am

This is similar to a piece by Miranda Devine earlier this year. The irony is that the PM, the beta male (Costello) and their boosters in the conservative press probably share Hilali’s assessment, but perhaps not his words

Losers of the sexual revolution
Miranda Devine
February 22, 2007

Newly bald Britney Spears has checked herself back into rehab after a weekend of excessive partying and unsavoury exhibitionism, just another young woman self-destructing in front of our eyes.

There has been no sign of the 25-year-old singer’s two young sons amid the crotch-flashing, mascara-smeared, vomit-specked nightclubbing that preceded her impulsive head-shave at a Los Angeles salon – an act psychologists have interpreted as an existential cry for help.

But Spears’s meltdown is more than just her personal tragedy. Sexualised almost since her days as a Disney child star, she is the canary in the coalmine of troubled young womanhood.

As other celebrity car crashes – Lindsay Lohan, Nicole Richie, Paris Hilton and Anna Nicole Smith – pile up, it is clear something is terribly wrong with the fairer sex.

Lohan, who has also flashed her shaven crotch at the paparazzi during partying binges, was last week spotted leaving an Los Angeles rehab clinic to go straight to a nightclub. Yet, like the sad minxes in Sex and the City, she has declared she just wants to get married and have a child.

As for Smith, who spent the last few years of her life in a substance-addled stupor before dying two weeks ago, aged 39, she had become a cartoon sex object, used and abused by everyone who came in contact with her. We watched helplessly, if we cared at all, as she committed slow suicide in public.

Spears inhabits the same space, her increasingly desperate exhibitionism, non-stop inebriation and casual couplings with numerous forgettable men chronicled in lascivious detail by gossip websites and magazines. We have so normalised self-destructive slutty behaviour that Spears’s antics were considered the natural reaction of a young woman letting down her hair after a marriage breakdown.

Until it all got too much. One witness to the shearing scene claimed Spears said she was shaving her hair off because she was “sick of people touching her”. One psychologist said the act was an attempt to repel male attention.

In a world saturated with pornography, when women treat themselves like sluts, why would men treat them any differently? Mutual respect between the sexes, romance and a legacy of chivalry by men entranced by the feminine mystique have been trashed in the name of female equality and sexual liberation.

Now Valentine’s Day, once a time for love hearts, flowers and romantic cards, has been hijacked by radical feminists in the United States as V-Day – either a day to celebrate vaginas or to raise awareness of violence against women.

And judging by Cleo magazine, a one-night stand is almost elaborate courtship. Next month’s Cleo catalogues a new sex trend: “The curiosity shag: dying to know what he’s like in bed? This could be the way to find out. No strings attached.” But the problem is, with women, there invariably are emotional strings attached to sexual encounters.

Evolutionary psychology is providing confirmation of what most people instinctively know – men are hard-wired to want more sex than women, more casual sex, more often, and with more partners, because there is an evolutionary advantage to spreading their sperm far and wide and fathering lots of children.

Women, who need nine months to produce a child, have no such biological imperative, goes the theory. Instead they are hard-wired to form emotional attachments with a male who will protect them and their children.

Launching straight into sex before even the first date was a hallmark of the sexual revolution, a way women could emulate men and jettison the emotional baggage of romantic love that had supposedly held them back for generations.

But no matter how hard they try to live up to the old feminist ideal of “zipless f—s”, invariably women get hurt.

Take the celebrated “mile high club” scandal on Qantas. A flight attendant, Lisa Robertson, has told how she initiated sex with the actor Ralph Fiennes on a flight from Darwin to Mumbai, leading him into a toilet cubicle for a quickie.

“I’m going to have to kick you out now,” Fiennes said suavely after a later rendezvous in his hotel room, according to the account of events she sold to the Daily Mail newspaper. “See you on the next Qantas flight.” But for a woman who seems to embody the liberated female’s attitude to casual sex, Robertson seemed overly concerned with feelings.

She said she had hoped the relationship would continue and was “hurt and disappointed” that Fiennes wouldn’t support her when she was sacked. To Robertson “the experience was a lot more than just about sex”. But men are wired differently. No amount of brainwashing and SNAG-ification will change that.

A study released this week by the American Psychological Association warned of the psychological harm being done to women by the increasing sexualisation of society.

“Sexualisation of girls is a broad and increasing problem,” said the study, and it could cause psychological and physical harm to young women and girls as young as four. Imagery of “sexed-up” little girls and women posing as adolescents could lead to depression, eating disorders and poor academic performance.

If you ever needed proof that women were the losers in the sexual revolution here it is. It is time women seized back their inner prude.

#4 gess on 04.25.07 at 5:18 pm

What is the point, Austrolabe?

Are you justifying the sheik’s statement? That bigots, chauvinists, swines are found everywhere?

You are actually associating some one like Roger Sandall, who has no place in Islam, with the rest of Ummah. The non Muslim will assume we are in same boat like people who support Roger Sandall’s views.

#5 fsf on 04.25.07 at 9:15 pm

Sandall isn’t saying that women deserve to be raped (like the sheikh) if they dress openly but that there is a problem in our society with everything being sexualised. If you read it, he’s very critical of hilaly’s comments and says they were wrong and outrageous.

Also the major point Gess is that this is John Howard (PM of Australia) favourite magazine so it shows the hypocrisy of the government that they go crazy when a Muslim says this stuff (rightly so) but don’t react at all when a non Muslim academic says pretty much the same thing but in a much nicer gentler way.

#6 fsf on 04.25.07 at 9:18 pm

That’s right Baybers. Obviously a lot of people think that there is too much sex in society and it’s everywhere. I don’t think most people dispute that so that is what Sandall is agreeing with NOT what Hilaly said about raw meat.

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#8 AnonyMouse on 04.27.07 at 5:35 am

I have just begun reading “A Return to Modesty” by Wendy Shalit, and think it’s brilliant. I recommend it to everyone who is considered by the increasing sexualization within our culture and the huge effect it has on everyone.
Ironically, what the author is calling to – a return to old-fashioned modesty but accompanied with such things as women’s rights to a career and so on – is practically the same thing that Islam has been saying for the last 1400+ years.

#9 Natalia on 05.04.07 at 12:45 am

Sandall doesn’t have a particularly good grip on history. A variety of very sexualized cultures existed way before ours. We are hearkening back to a “golden age” that never existed.

I personally can’t believe his offhand characterizations of “conventionally respectable immigrants from some traditional culture—Sri Lankan Buddhists, Colombian Catholics, Eastern Orthodox from the Ukraine” – considering the fact that I AM a bloody Eastern Orthodox from Ukraine, and I will NOT be patronized in this fashion. Has he even BEEN to Ukraine? A place where rape and molestation are hardly prosecuted by modern standards? Does he KNOW what it’s like to be molested – considering his oddly sympathetic attitude toward “the comparatively innocent behavior of desert tribesmen” some of whom like little boys?

What people like Sandall don’t get is that human nature will always have its dark underbelly. In any point in time. In any country.

Britney Spears is a red herring.

And he is mis-reading the cultural significance Lolita.

He is right to point out that critics have flirted with the notion of Lolita’s taboos as something to be overcome. But I highly doubt that anyone suggests that the actual plot of Lolita, as opposed to the writing (which is heavenly), ought to be legitimized.

Sheesh.

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